Over the years, I was often asked why I stayed in the same place so long - sometimes with horror, sometimes admirably. But the answer to me was clear - whenever I was bored or ready to move on, I managed to find a new role in the same organisation that interested me enough to stay.
Read MoreI recently read this article from AllBright on the Likeability trap, inspired by a new book (which, full disclosure, I have not read.) The piece talks about our need to be liked, a need perhaps felt more by women than men, although deep down, I think most of us want to be liked - we have an innate need to connect with others.
Read MoreLast month I read “How Women Rise” by Marshall Goldsmith and Sally Helgesen. The book starts with a story of how Goldsmith and Helgesen once did a conference together. Goldsmith didn't prepare much and was pretty disorganised but won everyone over with his charm and subject knowledge. Helgesen spent hours preparing and worrying about how she would come across. Towards the end of the conference, Goldsmith finds out that his flight leaves earlier than he thought it did (did I say he was disorganised?), rushes off and leaves Helgesen to close on her own - which completely throws her as it wasn't in her plan.
Read More"5 tips for living your best life”, “lean in”, “self-improvement made easy”. The internet is full of tips, memes and headlines on being your best self - quite often aimed at women. But what if we don’t want to be on our A-game every day of the week? What if we are tired of putting 100% into everything, of striving, of feeling inadequate every time we see the latest 28-year-old entrepreneur profiled in HBR?
Read MoreAccording to Tara Mohr in her book “Playing Big”, girls, in particular, learn at school to keep their heads down, do a good job, and assume their success will be noted. When success involves getting good marks in homework and exams, that works. But in the workplace, not everyone sees the good work we do. And with so many distractions for leaders at the moment, we need to work harder to make an impact.
Read MoreGetting promoted is not an easy task—it takes patience, tenacity, self-awareness, dedication - and probably some luck. Despite the pandemic, organisations in most sectors are still looking to promote. Still, a hiatus last year at the height of the COVID crisis is now leading to a "backlog" in the promotion pipeline. So what can you do to make sure your name is in the frame?
Read MoreWhen speaking to people about coaching, I often hear why they’re not ready for it just yet. Sometimes they have too much going on at home or work to focus on; sometimes, they’re not prepared to open themselves up to the level of self-awareness required; sometimes, what they actually need is therapy.
Read MoreOur self-worth is about how we value ourselves - whether we see ourselves as "worthy" - worthy of love, respect etc. I see self-esteem as being slightly different from self-worth. Self-worth gets to the very core of our being; self-esteem is the product of our self-worth - how we think and feel about ourselves based on how worthy we feel. Our self-esteem in turn then drives how we act and behave.
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